Ann Young left a message on my friend Muriel's blog that really pisses me off. I have a feeling Ann Young could be gang raped and still forgive the people for simply being "human" and fallible. She misses the point COMPLETELY - must be over her head. What constitutes a successful adoption? It appears to me that her motto would be "the end justifies the means". It is people like Ann Young that allow the criminals and wayward people of our society to commit the crimes they do with no justice to the victims. She is one of the most naive women I have ever had the displeasure of "knowing" - it is NOT the wait Ann, it is NOT that there are bumps in the road Ann, not all people who have a bone to pick with Orson are just being too hard on the "poor, poor" Orson. WE WERE LIED TO! Get it through your thick skull that YOUR experience does NOT represent EVERYONE's experience. For those of us who have been lied to by Orson - we have the RIGHT and RESPONSIBILITY to speak out against the unethical and ILLEGAL practices utilized to lure us into adopting through AIP! Are you out of your mind??? How dare you come onto Muriel's blog with your bullshit and negate her emotions and feelings which are legitimate in light of how she was treated!!! You are a hypocrite. If you want to keep your head in the sand that is your business but don't you DARE come and judge those of us who have been victimized. You are truly a heartless bitch.
Friday, December 15, 2006
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Dawn,
It is nice to have friends who understand what you are going through. I really appreciate your support and your aknowledgement that my feelings are real and genuine. I am glad we are in this together and I know that in the end we will have our wonderful children however we will not wear rose colored glasses when speaking about our experience and I know we will NEVER make anyone feel bad or unjustified in what they are feeling while going through this process.
I wonder if sometimes people who have completed the adoption process somehow forget the pain of it?
One of my very dear friends hosted during the summer of 05 with me. Out of the 13 kids who were here, only 4 were able to be adopted. I, along with many of my friends, lost the kids that we knew and loved. Kids that called us Mama and Papa. Anyway, my good friend was lucky and was able to complete her adoption. It didn't go smoothly -- while in country there was a lot fear they'd come home empty handed.
Soon after coming home there was a post on a web ring asking about the region our kids were from. My friend responded and basically said the region is a breeze. No problems! It's all wonderful.
I was shocked! Did she forget that she almost didn't get her children? Did she forget about all of her friends who did lose their kids? I don't know. She's a wonderful person and I love her dearly, but that rosy-colored view she expressed hurt.
I am going through the process right now trying to adopt a baby from Russia and I have had so much hardship and bumps in my road. I never post but I like to read Dawn, Muriel and other's stories. In fact I check Dawn's blog every day and her friendship with Muriel is touching. Hearing their stories makes me feel not so alone in the process and heartache I am going through. I have been trying to get my son home for 16 months.
I do not know who the agency that is behind this is but it is so wrong to post pictures of children who are not available. It is so cruel and even if many children have been adopted by this agency it does not justify the stomping on hearts and souls along the way.
Carlie J. Cavanaugh
Santa Fe, New Mexico
I can't read this without commenting on Muriel's post. "I know we will NEVER make anyone feel bad or unjustified in what they are feeling while going through this process." How do you think Ann feels after being called a heartless bitch? Her feelings are different from yours but they are still her feelings which should be justified. I have respect for Ann for treating Muriel with respect and presenting her experience instead of belittling others. Neither Muriel, Dawn or Ann's experiences are wrong, just different.
Jessica
Hi Jessica - I really don't give a damn what Ann feels for being called a heartless bitch because she has been HARASSING me and Muriel without provocation! We post our feelings and they ARE justified...yet not a post goes by without her commenting on how wrong we are for being upset with this man who has lied to us! I have just lost my referral and I am grieving. She is a heartless bitch who should keep her mouth shut and leave us alone. Let her move on with her life and go play with her baby. If she can't respect other people speaking out when they have been abused than she should just skip over all the harsh realities and keep her head in the sand and leave us alone.
Please note: I did not call anyone a bitch. Additionally, I understand that everyone has their own feelings. I believe that when someone is hurt or frustrated at an agency or person who has done something very wrong and hurtful the "ends justifies the means" argument is infuriating and insensitive. Sometimes it is okay to say..."What is happening to others and happened to you is wrong and criminal. I am not going to make excuses for the one who did it. Although my experience is different I can UNDERSTAND your pain."
Yes, just want to clarify that Muriel is not the one who called her a heartless bitch - that was me. Muriel even told m e she thought it was harsh to say that, but honestly I don't care right now.
Additionally, i resent the infrence that I care more about shutting an agency down then the orphans who are in kazakhstan. That is what really has set me in orbit. How could anyone say something like that and think it is somehow constructive. Actually, if bad agencies who do criminal activites were put out of business then ethical agencies, such as the one I am currently with, would be able to adopt out more children from Kazakhstan. As it is people have to wait to get a referral and or an LOI. It is not like there are all these children who will be stranded if a criminal goes to jail. I would love for all of the children to be adopted...in fact I would take ten if I was allowed.
I totally agree with Muriel and Dawn. I have seen posts from this person before and do not even want to mention my name or blog for fear that she will chastise me as well or even worse report me to the agency she used and I am currently using. I have been in chatrooms and have seen her responses to people. It is very La De Da The truth is what is going on is just plain wrong! there is nothig more to add and if people want to bitch about it then they should be able to bitch in peace.
AMEN...thank you anonymous blogger. If you would like to chat I would love to hear from you. You can e-mail me at murielcollison@hotmail.com. Same with Carlie from New Mexico
Thank you for your SUPPORT
I understand you are upset and hurt right now and justifiably so, but as a Christian don't you think a better way to respond would be to simply ignore Ann, remove her post as she requested, and continue to put your energy and prayer into bringing home your son? Hatred and name calling doesn't serve anyone well ...
I'm sorry Orson has put you through this ordeal.
We travelled blind this summer when Kaz got harder on referrals. Our agency stopped getting them, but several agencies continued to get them.
Once you meet your son in Kaz, hopefully with another agency, your adventure into adoption will end happily.
Dawn and Joe,
I'm sorry for the loss of "your" boy. Eventhough we all know the children are not "officially" ours until they're officially ours. It's hard not to make that connection. Even after Sammy became officially ours, only after I stepped off the airplane in NJ. did I feel he was truly ours and safe and sound. I don't know everything you or others have gone through with Orson, but I do know that although I feel in love with Sammy via our adoption process, when I first met him in person, I had my doubts about him and how he would fit in with our current family. The journey does not end once you come home with your little person, it just begins. Overall we have been very fortunate in Sammy's overall progress of becoming a little boy vs. a stoic robot, a family member and what it means to do so, but it has had some rough moments as well. I know you're down and feeling crappy, come and laugh at our blog for some of the drama you have yet to encounter, and don't you worry, there are so many wonderful children waiting to be part of your family.
Best of Luck to you
Nell McCaffery
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