Saturday, June 30, 2007

Our Three Sons

" See all my teeth Mommy!?!"

Mommy's Little Man! I love you Stephen!

Stas didn't like to miss anything - lol!

Joe holding the birthday boy ~ Stas!

Alex Now at 24 months

Alex (Sasha) around 7 months old...See the difference???
I have nearly reached the end of my rope...I have no more fight in me. We fought hard to adopt all three of these boys and it just doesn't seem that any of them were meant to be. I will surf the last wave for Stephen, but this week Joe and I have decided that we need to go in a different direction. Ultimately, we may never see Stephen again. He may indeed be raised in the orphanage just like his mother and her sisters and, sadly, his newborn baby brother. I loved each of these boys...they are my sons. Alexander is getting so big and has changed so much from the bright eyed baby we saw so many months ago. A fellow adopter recently home from Taraz passed along a new photo of him and he has changed...and it is not for the better. His light is gone.

Our little Stas...God, he stole our hearts quickly. I still think of him every day. I pray that he will be adopted and not remain in the orphanage and NOT be reunited with his birthmother. She doesn't deserve him.

And my sweet, sweet Stephen. You are my precious boy. I love you and living with you so far away is unbearable. I know I will have to come to terms with not being your mommy at some point. God help the selfish and evil people who stole your future.

I feel defeated. AIP will pay the price for their involvement, or lack of in our adoption and the many hearts they have broken in the name of PROFITS! My focus must soon shift to moving forward, regrouping and bringing justice to our case in the name of Alex, Stas and Stephen.

15 comments:

Type (little) a aka Michele said...

There are no words. I don't know you, but I know that you don't deserve this. And neither do any of these innocent boys.

I want to say something like don't give up hope, but even I know how trite that sounds. You could still get your boy. But, I'm not in your shoes.

I am in your area. Is there anything I can do? We could meet at the mall or (WB or MPM) or something.

Anyway. Thinking of you.

Jenni said...

I don't really know what to say about this tragic situation. I just wanted you to know that you, Joe and all three of your sons are in my thoughts.

Dana said...

Dawn it makes me so sad to read your post because I can tell the fight is dwindling in you but I can definetly understand at this point. It is very unfortunate for all 5 of you.

I also wish there was something I could do for you. I'm sure you have lots of family and friends to count on but I am also only 30 minutes away from you if you need to talk to someone I hope you know I will be here, whatever I can do.

I was so much looking forward to getting together with our little kaz babies in the future since we are so close. I don't have mine yet but soon will but am terrified until it is 100% legal.

Your in my thoughts everyday.

Dana/Meena

Melissa said...

You know I am here for you. I have emailed you in the past and gave you my number. All you need to do is call and I am there. I know you are off for the summer, so please come by or I will come to you. If you need to vent, cry on a shoulder, or just sit quietly with a cup of tea and someone there, let me know. I cannot express my sadness/anger over your situation and I am praying for your family's strength through this trying time.

Jenny and Matt said...

We're praying for you all, Dawn.

Julia Wimmer said...

Dear Dawn and Joe,
Keith and I are soo sorry for your losses and for your heartbreak. We have thought about you often. I am glad you have a lawyer working for you over in Kaz. So many adoption agencies have missions that include something like "a forever family for every child". It would be nice if one of these ethical agencies would step up to the plate and lend a helping hand to your family.

Warm regards,
Julia

Esther said...

I hear you. I'm with you on every sentiment.

We are going to court this month to sue the baby traffickers that took us to ZsaZsa. Gulp. It is extremely difficult to get this far when international business is done, ie..international adoption. But we have so much documentation that we have a slam dunk case. Most people don't keep records like I did. And video tape the baby traffickers in Russia, and photograph the documents in Russia....

If you go down the "lawsuit" road, feel free to email me. You know where to find me.

We are still looking forward to the FBI prosecution as well. The FBI is building their case to put our adoption agency and their workers in prison. A message has to be sent that this behavior is not tolerated.

Hawk said...

Dawn and Joe,

I don't know you all very well at all, I am merely a "blog lurker" but please know that you all are in my prayers. Alex, Stas and Stephen are in a horrible situation but better for knowing you, even if in the future they don't remember... you both have touched a deep part of their lives, and I still have hope for you that Stephen will come home and the other boys will find their light in life.

Please know that though the fight is dwindling, you still have a son out there. God has a plan for your life and for the life if the future children you will have.

You are in my prayers and I have had a candle lit constantly for you since I learned of your story. I hope you and Joe can both recover from the traumatic situation and find the light at the end of the tunnel.

~Hawk

The Cook said...

Oh Dawn, I am so sorry. I tried calling you the other night but I am sure you are not wanting to talk. I love you and have faith that you will be a mother. I can't imagine your pain. I wish I could do something. I totally support you bringing those responsible to justice. What has happened to you is evil and cruel and I hate the lying bastard for doing this to you and Joe and the boys. He seriously is evil and I love that he lives in a mansion probably laughing at all the people he has screwed. My only comfort is that someday he will get what he deserves.

pasy said...

I would like to know how much you have spent and how much has been paid to AIP. I just looked on AIP's page and saw several "success" stories which I personally know were fraught with bait/ and switch and or exhorbitant extra fees.

One baby featured "Starr" was adopted by an extremely wealthy family and Orson got them to pay about 70,000 for her. "Imara" same story. It's always because someone else wants the child or a relative is making trouble.

I found "Brittany's" mother crying in Ost after she had been sent all over the country by flilthy train. Brittany was a bait and switch baby
Adoptive parents hearts are so big, they will almost always find the same love for another child as the "chosen" one.

The U.S. embassy in Almaty told me that they are well aware of Orson and Nigmat but are powerless to shut him down. AIP is notorious in Kaz and my friend's adoption was urned down by the court and later reversed with a bribe. I went with her to Kaz twice and witnessed the horrors of AIP firsthand.

I highly reccommend "Little Miracles" and all agencies that go through The Frank Foundation. Sue Orson for all fees paid and then use the fees to adopt through a more reputable agency. As I said, Orson's agency address is a phoney. he runs everyhing from his magnificent estate in Montecito, Ca. I will be happy to direct you to his home.

In the middle of my friend's adoption, she simply drove down her street, same one as orson's, and told him she would ruin him in every way if the hi jinks didn't stop. And she had the ways and means to do so.

After that, his crooked facilitator in Ost extorted more money from my friend about 7,000. and that was to speed up our exit by a couple of days.

Your experience with AIP does not surpise me but does sadden me. I had hoped that word of mouth would have shut him down by now. You are in my prayers. Patsy

Calico Sky said...

Dawn, I don't know what to say. The pain you must be experiencing must be unbearable...
Having been in a situation where the children I was going to adopt were not released for adoption, I found (it happened 2 times for me) that when they went to a loving family, I was able to accept it...but when the other 2 were to continue in state care, face neglectful birth family members getting custody again...it just added to the heartbreak.
You & the futures of the three boys are in my prayers...

Anonymous said...

I am speechless and so terribly sorry for you and these three precious boys.

Beckie

Sig said...

Dawn, I am so very sorry, my heart hurts so much for you. I wish I could do something other than pray for you, the boys and that Orson goes DOWN. :(

Susan said...

You don't know me, but please count me among the many blogger friends that are thinking of you! I'm so saddened, and furious, for both you and those beautiful boys.

I sincerely wish there was something I could do. If there is, please just let me know....

Let's hope this reaches the media and these bastards get nailed!

Cindy LaJoy said...

I have adopted twice from Kaz and once from Kyrgyzstan, and throughout the past 7 years have gone through the Yunona and Orson scandals with others. We have been fortunate that we have had solid agencies each time with no problems, but I realize how easily the tables could have been turned.

I urge you to consider using another agency, and to take a deep breath and start over. There is a child or children somewhere waiting for you, needing you just as much as you need them. There are thousands of successful, wonderful international adoption stories each year from happy families...and I would hate to see this discourage you as it surely should. Your persistance alone shows what a great advocate you would be for your children!!

When I was in Kaz 4 weeks ago completing our Kyrg adoption I met a woman at the Embassy who adopted through Orson who also was finishing a horrendous experience with them and almost couldn't speak through the tears of frustration.

Best of luck as you fight them, but don't forget the real purpose...to bring home your children!